Live… love life!

Almost all romantic relationships starts out in a simple date, then just enough time in the getting to know each other stage. Some gets to the ’til death do us part moment but most dies out just as easy as it all started. The mystery of how we get to decide whether to take our relationships to the next level would be a lifetime of a guesswork. We do try to justify our decisions by saying things like, we compliment each others characteristics or personality, he or she understands me more than anyone else does, he or she is the most beautiful, kindhearted, caring person I have ever met… STOP right there! We may think of the perfect features that we could attribute to the person we choose to love, but at the end of the day, we would realize that there is no perfect person really… not even we can become the perfect person our partners may say we are in our most intimate moment.

I’ve met a few guys before my husband and dated some of them. There were at least three guys whom I thought would be good to have for a lifetime partner. Although I didn’t have a relationship with two of  the three guys, why did I think that they’d be good husbands? I’m more of an intuitive person, and my first encounter with a person is always the determinant whether the person is within or outside my sphere. There it is!

In choosing a partner, only we have the hands on who we may think would be good for us, except for those who have been destined to marry a particular person due to a strong cultural influence that limits their choices in making that decision for themselves. Now, if we think back to the time when we meet the right person what is the first thing that comes into our mind?

What are the Odds in Picking the Right Person…

Romantic beings that we are, we all believe that the only thing that would make us happy for life is finding and marrying the person that we love. The question that will remain unanswered is how do we come to love someone. If we can answer that question then we can also tell how we may unlove someone.

I myself do not believe in love at first sight and I think the person who believes that there is such thing as that has an emotional imbalance. It is a terrible thing to mistake intuition with strong feeling of love. Even worse, to rely on the first impression in committing ourselves to someone. If love at first sight  is true then, I should have heard stories of people marrying on their first meeting. By far, I haven’t. So… I may be right at some degree.

Let’s discuss why I thought the two guys (one of the I met only three times in a school seminar) I haven’t had relationship with would be good to have for a husband. As I’ve mentioned earlier, I am a particularly intuitive person. I use that intuition in   determining people’ s characters and measuring their personality based on what they say, how they say the words, the gestures… eye contact is the key determinant of a person’s sincerity. Being able to look you in the eye does not guarantee that a person is being completely honest with you. Earnestness cannot be faked, dishonesty has a very distinct way in showing itself even on those who have tried mastering the art of treachery.  The trick is to believe what the person says and be (very) observant of his or her actions (if it measures up to your first impression of him or her) if you ever decide to take a simple date into the next level. Awareness and objectivity is the key here. We cannot make a mistake in choosing the right person because at the end of the day, it’s only gonna be you who would either suffer or enjoy the consequence of that one big decision you made for yourself.

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Comments on: "The Odds in Picking A Winning Life Partner" (5)

  1. Perhaps you should write on where and how to find one too.

  2. You do realize that all boys lie right??? Sure you can think about people being treacherous, but it’s all about the plan they have that you cannot detect…

    T.

    • looking deep down a man’s deepest intent cannot be achieved by merely looking at him or observing how he does things. One has to be very intuitive to detect the plan… not the detailed plan, but somehow you know something isn’t right. For the record, not only boys do lie, women are more treacherous sometimes.

  3. oh Joan….I couldn’t agree with you more…I once thought women were the most amazing vreatures then had one be ruthless to my scarred heart….now, no matter how hard I try, I will trust them with my love, but I always look for the hidden dagger they carry with the sweetest of poisons on the blade….

    T.

  4. I don’t believe that there is only one person for every one, or in soul mates. Life, love and marriage are what you make of them.

    Of course, it helps if you pick a nice guy 🙂

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