It is a common conception that the most basic responsibility of parents over their children is to feed, give shelter, clothe and educate them. If a couple is not ready to commit themselves to these responsibilities they are not fit to have children.
It is a natural instinct for a responsible parent to want to be able to give their children a good future and a better life and work hard to be able to do so. It is great pride to themselves when they grow old to see that their children has succeeded and have good lives and raise a family of their own. There is no greater joy for parents to see that their sacrifices has not been is vain.
Raising children, giving them a good life and providing them with the opportunity to get good education even if it means great sacrifice for parents are most commendable from outsiders perspective. Although it is part of the basic parental responsibilities not everyone is able to live up to it. Many factors affect some parents inability to give their children a good life to prepare them to a tougher life when they grow older. In such cases, the children themselves when raised responsibly, finds ways to get themselves educated dreaming of one day giving their families a better life.
We cannot deny the fact that as some parents sends their children to college doing everything in their power to have them complete a degree there is a hint of hope that once their children graduates and gets employed their lives would change and some of load of financial responsibilities will be taken off their shoulders. Responsible children does nothing less than to give back to show appreciation of their parents love and sacrifices so that they can have a good life. It becomes a different story though when parents make their children’s education an investment that they can collect in the old age expecting to be given a grand life with limitless cash return because the children owes them everything that they have and what they are. As if their children does not have the right to have a family of their own if the partner in life they will choose has no capacity to give the the grand life and unlimited cash supply that they expect.
If the children does not live up to the the success story the parents tried to design them to be when they sent them to the best schools, had them take piano lessons and all, then other ways needs to be devised in the hope that the children would give them back what is owed for their great sacrifices. Here is where family values are wasted. In the act of desperation in order to have one child give them money to be able to do the things they want and buy the things they want, which most of the time does not even need, every sibling has to look bad and be the worst villain to each others eyes to gain sympathy and ensure that they do not talk to each other and know what’s really going on. The worst victims in this scenario are the in-laws who are transformed to a gold digging bitch and an abusive gambling addict husband who takes all their children’s earnings and gives it away to the in-laws family.
When you find yourself in this position it takes remarkable patience and great love for your spouse to maintain the level of parental respect and be civil with your in-laws as part of your individual responsibility as a good spouse. No matter how badly we are being esteemed or bad mouthed we have to keep in mind that our in-laws actions are only reflections of what they are. Nobody knows us better that our spouses and they would not decide to stay with us if they do not like what they see in us. Yes it does hurt and makes us swear just thinking about them, but we should not make it affect our lives and worse break our marriage. It